[Guest Blogger Series] Sacred Saturdays and Family Values by Tanya Koob

When I started the Mommy Hiker blog a whole 4 months ago (it seems like ages!), one of the first people to reach out to me was award-winning blogger, travel writer and inspiring outdoorsy mom Tanya Koob of Family Adventures in the Canadian Rockies fame. I am so grateful for all of her support and guidance and it is a special honor to have her as my Guest Blogger this month!

It’s nearing the end of the week and if your to-do list looks anything like mine, it’s loooong! Way too long! I don’t know how it happens but I start off strong every Monday with great ambitions to conquer the world, get a mountain of tasks done during the week, and finish with a glass of wine on Friday before taking the weekend off. Yet, once again, the weekend is going to arrive with half of my list still unfinished.
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Skiing with my son
 Now I don’t know what’s on your list of things to do but I expect there’s some house cleaning, shopping, at least one errand that requires driving to the far side of the city, and possibly other random chores around the house from yard work to repairs.  You know that you could wash the floors after the kids are in bed but in reality, the TV is far too tempting at that point when you are seconds from falling asleep during the kids’ bed time story.  And you justify not being more productive during the day because you have children to take care of after all and you’ll get a lot more done if you go out shopping by yourself on the weekend when Dad can watch them for a couple of hours.  Right?
I’m there with you and my to-do list currently still has 15 things on it that I would love to have completed by Sunday night.  However, it’s not going to happen because Saturday in our house is a special day where nobody works, looks at lists, or frets over dirty bathrooms.  I’ve started referring to them as Sacred Saturdays because while our practice of not working on Saturday isn’t a religious one, it is sacred for us none the less.  We protect our Saturdays and try extremely hard not to do anything that has to be done.  We devote the day to play, family bonding, relationship building with friends, and outdoor pursuits.
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Hitting the slopes
There are exceptions of course and I’m not going to stop my husband from answering that business email that comes in from India requiring him to drop everything and quickly solve some big problem as soon as possible.  And there are things that sometimes have to get done today – and not tomorrow or next month as is often the case.  Gardens don’t plant themselves, house repairs generally don’t get done mid-week, and those epic shopping trips to the far corner of the world tend to pile up until it requires a whole day or weekend to get everything done.
So what do we do on Saturdays?  We go to the mountains.  We hike, camp, ski, ride our bikes, go paddling, and travel all over our beloved Canadian Rockies.  We usually invite friends to spend the day with us and we try to unwind from a busy week of working.  We reconnect as a family and catch up on stories that may have gone forgotten during the week.  Overall, we just play and have fun!  No shopping, no work, no errands, and hopefully no cooking on my part as my husband takes over that duty on weekends.  (Yes, I know I’m lucky.)
What do we sacrifice and give up by living this lifestyle?  We miss the occasional birthday party, we’re often not back in town by Sunday morning for church services, and our son won’t be playing soccer this spring as practices in our neighborhood happen on Saturday mornings.  We’ve also received criticism in the past for being out of town playing when friends may have needed us to help with anything from a move to building a garage.   In our defense, we’ll happily help you build that deck Sunday afternoon if we’re in town, and we haven’t missed a birthday party yet this year.  
Tanya Koob
With my son
Despite a few sacrifices, I wouldn’t change a thing and we try very hard to live a balanced life.  Given enough notice, we will save a Saturday on the calendar for a birthday party in June, (Love friends that plan 3 months ahead!) and we will move things around on the calendar so that we are in town when our truck is invited on a play date to help friends get a Christmas tree, move furniture, or pick up a large appliance that doesn’t fit in their Honda Civic. 
If setting aside a full day per week is too much for your family, start off small and choose a couple days per month that you will devote to family play and bonding.  Even one day per month is an excellent start.  The key is to choose a day where the whole family will be together for as much of the day as possible.  And while we’ve chosen Saturday, you might prefer to keep a more traditional Sunday Sabbath.  For ourselves, while we go to church on Sunday, we find that by the time Sunday afternoon arrives we are already thinking about the coming week and are anxious to start preparing for it.  Meanwhile Saturday beckons our family to get outside, throwing lists to the wind, and to celebrate the first day of the weekend together where we are happiest – outside.     
Tanya Koob
Our Family
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About the Author: Tanya is the author of the Calgary based blog, Family Adventures in the Canadian Rockies.  She is an aspiring freelance writer, coffee junkie, and new convert to the exciting sport of Stand Up Paddleboarding.  She is the mom to a spunky four year old boy who currently thinks she is a princess and wife to an amazing husband that, in her words, “I will never truly deserve.”

Let the Terrific Twos Begin!

It’s that time of year again when we celebrate the most beautiful thing that has ever come in to our lives! This past weekend was our Peanut’s 2nd birthday!
kid birthday cake
The past few weeks have been a deeply reflective period for me. I’ve found myself searching for solitude, eager to remember each moment of the last two years, thirsty to cherish the present moments as they occur and inspired as I look forward to all the new and exciting things to come.
Being a mother is a hell of a roller coaster ride. The ups are full of laughter and wonder, admiration and fascination. The downs are full of counting… to ten… and then counting to ten again. I see more clearly the opportunities to grow and learn more about myself. I’m striving to become a hoarder of patience and to master the ever-present balancing act to protect while encouraging exploration.
toddler birthday balloons
Being a wife makes being a mother easier. With the childhood memories of my mother raising me alone (with the help of my grandmother), my admiration and awe of all single parents out there has grown exponentially. Having a partner to take over when I’m exhausted, to share the happenings of the day with over a glass of wine, to exchange glances with when we realize again for the bazzillionth time that we created a little human being who we have the honor of watching before our eyes develop her own personality and make her own choices; It all makes me love and appreciate my husband in ways I never had the opportunity to before.
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Being a mother makes being a daughter more precious. My mom and I have always been best friends. It’s possibly an offshoot of the fact that she was a young, single mother, but more probably because she’s an open, outspoken, truth-filled and fantastically fun human being. Watching her adoration and unconditional love for our daughter is one of the most beautiful things to witness in the world and sharing with her my new found wisdom while learning from her wealth of knowledge has brought more depth and love to our relationship.
For me, Vivienne’s birthday celebration is not only a chance to rejoice in the grace and light and love that she brings to us, but it is also a time to praise all of the people who continually enrich and enliven our lives!
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Photo Booth fun!
birthday party photo booth
photo booth
We love you little peanut!!!

[Family Volunteering Series Pt. 2] Teaching Tots the Importance of Environmental Stewardship

I’m a firm believer that modeling is the most effective way to teach my daughter responsible and respectful behavior. I don’t always succeed. I lose patience. Then, I take a few deep breaths and continue on my ever-evolving quest to act as I wish to be emulated.
There’s no question that being a mother continually pushes me to examine and improve my own behavior and I am always looking for positive and fun ways to allow my little peanut to experience the grace of caring for Mother Nature. After a quasi-successful Heal The Bay Vencie Beach CleanUp last month and a almost 3-week ordeal with a sick toddler, we were more than ready to jump back in to the swing of things! Cue TreePeople!
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TreePeople!
We have hiked passed TreePeople‘s compound on a popular trail here in Los Angeles countless times and I have been looking forward to the time when Vivi would be old enough to participate in their great nature programs and volunteer opportunities.
Tree People’s first planting project in 1970 was led by visionary 15-year-old Andy Lipkis. Their mission for the past almost 40 years has been to inspire, engage and support people to take personal responsibility for the urban environment, making it safe, healthy, fun and sustainable and to share the process as a model for the world. How inspiring!

I was SO in!! Fellow mommy hiker and partner in crime, Megan was, as always, IN too with her little man! I couldn’t WAIT to wake up, pack up the fam and trek out to gorgeous Calabasas to help expand native habitat along Cienega sin Nombre (No Name Creek) and in the valley preserve to protect our animals and birds. 

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Not a bad working environment!
What better way to engage small people in environmental stewardship than to give them a pile of dirt and water!

planting trees with toddlers
Vivi & David preparing the soil
It was a splendid way to spend much-needed family time together while teaching our babes how to work together to complete a task! My hubby also did a blog on our TreePeople adventure!
Work hard, play hard Dad!
Learning the proper ‘dibbler’ technique!
We had SO much fun volunteering for TreePeople that we decided to do this once a month! 
The family that plants together, stays together!